Please welcome Jason Maurer on his current blog tour. I asked him if he would be kind enough to include the word for the day – such a kind man…
I’ve been asked to write a post on the word of the day: ‘Immoderate –
Definition: exceeding just, usual, or appropriate bounds: excessive.
Society, as a whole, has grown accustomed to the immoderate use of sexuality in media. Everywhere we look is a plethora of television ads, movies and music that rely solely on sex appeal to make money. This is the boon of advertising, because they want you to buy their product simply for the gorgeous hunk of manmeat in the commercial. A product should be able to sell itself without having to rely on America’s next top model.
The excessive portrayal of sexuality in media only leads us to believe that we need sex in order to be happy, that the world is open to one’s self-indulgence simply by taking another person home for a fifteen-minute rendezvous.
This couldn’t be farther from the truth. What we need is a trust in our partner, and the love that goes hand-in-hand.
You can have love without trust, but where does that get you other than constantly worrying about what your partner is doing while you’re not around? You can trust someone without loving them, but this is on a completely different level and more like the camaraderie of friends.
Why can’t we [i.e. gay men] just have a decent relationship, without the constant pressure to ‘put out’? Not every gay person in this world is a slut, and it’s sad that most guys I know only think of other men they meet as a target to conquer.
For decades, the superior fashion gurus have overexposed us to the glamour of sexuality and sexual content. To them, the idea of sex seems like merely a game, and we have been shown not to take sex seriously, that it’s permissible to have many, many partners.
By constantly being exposed to this misrepresentation of what our sex lives should be like, the impact of our love for one another has been lessened, almost to the point of nonexistence. We have forgotten what it’s like to exist within a structured, honest, and loving relationship.
I feel sorry for the young teenagers who are being shown that sex, and not love, is what makes us happy, because they will grow up believing in this mantra and become adults who only repeat the incessant pattern of reckless behavior.
As I’ve matured and gracefully yet reluctantly entered my thirties, I’ve come to realize that this type of behavior doesn’t get us anywhere except immediate gratification, and perhaps loneliness.
You may think that I don’t enjoy sex, but I’ve had my fair share of past encounters and am certainly not saying sex is a bad thing. It just seems to me that nearly every guy I meet EXPECTS me to go home with him, but I’m not going to jump in bed with someone for the sole reason that I was wined and dined.
My latest novel “Trust and Love” is a story about the love between two gay men. Yes, there is a bit of sex in it, but not enough to make it risqué or qualify as an erotica. I didn’t write the romantic scenes to sell the novel, and I certainly did not intend for the lovemaking to stand alone. It is merely a by-product of the love two men feel toward each other in an equal relationship.
Like the characters in my novel, I would much rather spend an evening cuddling on the sofa watching a movie, enjoying quality time together with the one I love.
Maybe I’m just old-fashioned.
Jason E. Maurer is the author of several short stories and novels that range in genre from romance to mystery, and everything in between. The work he produces is the result of a mind that can only be defined as ‘eclectic’.
His latest novel “Trust and Love” is a gay story that centers around the hope for a better future by advocating the “It Gets Better” Campaign, a cause that helps prevent teen suicide.
You can find him at http://jasonemaurer.blogspot.com
The links to his extensive list of social media can be found on the “About Me/Links” page of his website.
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