As we all know the definition of a trope in literary terms is a plot device or character attribute that is used so commonly in a genre that it is commonplace or conventional. I’ve recently been intrigued by the bad boy-good girl trope of romance books and movies, especially trilogies. It may have something to do with a draft manuscript I have on the back burner, which has a bad girl – good boy (you know me I like to switch things up!) It is interesting to see this specific relationship scenario played out, and the complexities of the plots. (Some better and more believable than others!)
I have researched three such movie trilogies/series and have found the basic characters and their flaws and/or strengths to be the very similar in each. Obviously, the plots and character lives are different, but the basic character structures are easily identifiable.
The Kissing Booth
Each one has a damaged, aloof, unattainable male character and also an innocent, charming, loving female character. The love aspect of the relationships are played out with various obstacles, misunderstandings and heart break scenarios. The characters go through intense, fractured and profound changes. The females become stronger and more capable of ‘controlling’ and understanding their love interest, while the male character’s go through a realization process that this specific woman can, in fact, love them for who they are.
So, why go to these lengths, you may ask? Well, there is that draft manuscript languishing in the pile, but also I am working on a trilogy and it is the character development, I am most interested in. Readers want to ‘see’ a character develop and change, overcome obstacles and have some sort of resolution. With trilogies, or indeed, any series, this is the ‘draw’ for a reader. How will the character overcome, manage and ultimately succeed?
With Christian and Anastasia in Fifty Shades – he is emotionally and physically damaged from childhood trauma and he ‘copes’ with punishing his mother look-a-likes in the playroom. Ana shows him there is another way to love and forgive.
With Elle and Noah in The Kissing Booth she breaks the rule of having a relationship with her best friend, Lee’s brother. It is a forbidden love full of secrets, guilt and at times an unattainable relationship. Elle risks her life long friendship with Lee to pursue Noah. The trilogy follows the characters through high school to college.
With Edward and Bella, again there is the unattainable relationship, this time between a vampire and a human. This is the ultimate taboo. Bella is convinced she is destined to be a vampire, but Edward will do anything to protect her from such an existence. The third player is Jacob, a werewolf, which adds to the complexity of the relationship as he is also in love with Bella. The two male character’s have a instinctive, historical hatred for each other, but both will do anything to protect Bella.
As you can see the similarities are obvious with each story with conflicts between the two main characters and their connection to each other, no matter the obstacles.
Can you name another series with this bad boy – good girl scenario?
Some marks, such as birthmarks or discoloration on our skin can be evidence of ‘scarring’ in our previous life.
Here is a list of different types of birthmarks and their probable past life causes:
Unhealed Burn Mark: This deep red birth-mark is the body’s way of remembering being burned by fire. The darker the mark, the less the wound has healed karmically. Usually this is because the past life is recent and the related trauma has not been processed.
Healed Burn Mark: This ultra white birth-mark is the body’s way of remembering being burned by fire. The lighter the mark, the more the wound has healed karmically. Although it is somewhat healed, there are still lessons to be learned from this old wound.
Single Bullet Wound: This birth-mark was caused by a bullet that entered on the left (notice the perfectly round pattern on the left compared to the right side). The uneven pattern on the right is a remnant of a related powder burn. This wound tends to be brown.
Embedded Bullet Wound: This birth-mark was caused by a bullet that became embedded in the body (and part of it). Notice the perfectly round shape of an antique bullet as well as the “burn” ring around this birth-mark. This wound tends to be black.
Sunken Bullet Wound: This birth-mark was caused by a bullet that became embedded in the body (and part of it). Notice the rounded shape of a blasted antique bullet as well as the deep indentation of this birth-mark. This wound tends to be red.
Scattered Shots: This pattern of marks was produced by sprayed shots (a bunch of bullets shot all at once) by an antique gun. The pellets of varying sizes all struck the skin at the same time in a tight pattern. This very common pattern can exist anywhere on the body.
Cannon Shots: This birth-mark is becoming increasingly rare as time passes because cannons are no longer used as weapons. This wound tends to be black as the cannon shot deeply scorched the skin. With each new life, the size of the cannon birth-mark shrinks.
Stab Wound: The slightly curved birth-mark is indicative of a fatal stab wound inflicted by a knife, dagger, or sword. When these appear on the side of the face (as in this case), it was most likely from a sneak attack while sleeping and was undoubtedly fatal.
Speared Through: Spots on the eye are almost always from being directly punctured there. This was a favorite form of assassination in past lives. It was usually done when the individual slept. It always proved to be fatal because a stab in the eye was a stab to the brain.
Scalped: The birth-mark features a patch of the scalp where hair cannot grow and a “bloody looking” patch appears in its place. This is how the scalp would look after the patch of hair was forcibly removed. It is how the body remembers being scalped in past lives.
Poisoned Arrow: The birth-mark features a central mole with a discolored ring around it and usually comes from past lives. This is how a poisoned arrow wound looked. If the arrow did not kill the person, the poison it was dipped in would do so.
Botched Surgery: In past lives, often the cure for a disorder was worse than the cause. This was especially true of surgeries which were done without anesthesia and often without a clear idea of how to do it. More often than not, past life surgery proved to be fatal.
Branding Mark: In past lives, those who had committed crimes were often branded with a hot iron. This mark is a faded dragon brand which was placed on the back of the neck of Chinese activists and dissidents to mark them as enemies of the state.
Slave Chains: In past lives, those who were in chains had their skin rubbed raw where it was constantly chafing against them. This damage was often so deep that the body would layer the area with callouses as a form of protection that often carries forward as cancer.
Remnants of Torture: In the past, one of the ancient torture techniques was to place a band or rope around the head and tighten it until the individual “confessed” or died. Often this torture proved to be fatal as well as leaving a birth-mark.
Suicide Wound: This birth-mark is the kind left when an person commits suicide by shooting a gun into their head. This birth-mark is unusual is that it features a red mark which looks like a trail of blood dripping from the point of bullet entry at the top of the head.
Plague Bubo: This birth-mark looks like a wart but is not one. It is the body’s way of remembering a bubo from a lifetime during the Black Death (also known as Bubonic Plague). Living through a pandemic is super stressful and often takes many lives to heal.
Harsh Hairs: This birth-mark is known as a “Morgellons Fiber” which mimics the stages of Syphilis: canker-like open sores (Stage 1 Syphilis), raised or mucous like skin patches (Stage 2 Syphilis), and infiltrative, destructive lesions of skin (Stage 3 Syphilis).
Leprosy Patch: This birth-mark looks like a wart patch but is not one. It is the body’s way of remembering the initial spread of leprosy as the patch always forms on the spot of the first outbreak. Like the plague, leprosy often takes many lives to heal.
Other karmic marks include:
Freckles-Albinos: Freckles (dark spots) and albinos (white spots) are often located where you have been burned by fire in past lives. Those who suffer from burns will tell you that fire leaves its mark on the skin permanently. Freckles and albinos are usually signs that you need to heal fire karma from past lives.
Skin Depressions: Skin depressions (where the skin is pitted, grooved, and rough) whether caused by injury or diseases (like smallpox, chicken pox, and syphilis) are often where you have been wounded in past lives. They are reminders of the issues from past lives that you have come to heal in the present lifetime.
Moles-Warts: Moles and warts are often located at the site of non-fatal disease lesions from past lives. Even though moles and warts have present life origins, they tend to gather around sites of past life trauma. Especially if you are having trouble in healing them, moles and warts may signal the need for past life healing.
Cysts-Lumps: Cysts and lumps are often located at the site of fatal disease lesions from past lives. For example, hard cysts-lumps in the hands, feet, and lymph nodes can be reminders of a traumatic death by plague in past lives. Especially those cysts and lumps which “grow back” may signal the need for past life healing.
Tumors: Tumors are often located at the site of fatal wounds inflicted by weapons in past lives. Tumors are the ultimate indicator that a past life is screaming out for healing in the present. Tumors usually demand a person’s attention, forcing them to take action to save their life now, even if it means healing their past lives.
There are a couple of reasons why ‘scars’ are present:
1. the body has not had enough time between its incarnations to heal properly.
2. the mind needs to reconnect with the past life trauma so it can be healed and released. So a birth mark is formed at the site of the past life damage when the individual chooses to reincarnate into a new life.